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Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Transition from High School to College: 3 Tips for Parents

From Beyond BookSmart's
Executive Functioning Strategies Blog 


By Brittany Wadbrook
April 17, 2015

Congratulations! Your son or daughter has just been officially accepted by The University of All Universities. While your household spent months focused on getting into school, now it’s time to shift its attention to staying in school.

Today we'll share three tips for parents to help smooth their child's transition from high school to college:

The Toughest Part of Transitioning from High School to College: Time Management

Our coaches have worked with hundreds of college students, and one of the biggest challenges facing incoming freshmen is the management of unstructured time. The way time is organized in high school (all-day classes five days a week) means students don’t really need to think about using free time, because there isn’t that much of it. When clubs/sports/dinner/homework are finished, students barely think twice about rushing to the TV, computer, or a friend’s house.

But college freshmen living on campus experience free time much differently. One of the first things they notice is how much free time there is, and how little monitoring of their time anyone is doing (no parents haranguing them about doing their homework or studying for that Algebra test tomorrow).

For example, for a student who piles all five courses onto a Monday, Wednesday, Friday schedule, that means Tuesday and Thursday are entirely free. For a student who spreads courses out across multiple days, it can mean nothing scheduled before noon.

To really make this clear, here’s a visual contrast (high school schedule at the top, and college below):

Typical High School Schedule

Possible College Schedule

That’s a whole heck of a lot less time in the classroom than they’re used to.

But this free time isn’t really free. It’s time that gets filled with competing demands: finish a reading assignment or go out for lunch with a roommate; begin researching for an essay or watch reruns of Friends; go to the gym or sleep in.

For students who struggle with Goal-Directed Persistence and Time Management, having an abundance of time to fill -- and having to constantly make choices about how to fill it -- can be one of the most challenging aspects of a student’s first semester.

What You Can Do to Help Your Child Transition from High School to College

Knowing that your son or daughter will be asked to make daily choices about how to spend out-of-class time, you’re in a great position to help them prepare for this dramatic transition. Here’s what you might try.

Illustrate

Using the two weekly layouts above can help your son or daughter get a visual sense for the kind of shift university-level schedules can pose. At first, they’ll probably be excited to have that amount of flexibility (or as they might call it: freedom). But for every credit hour a student takes, the out-of-class homework and studying expectation is double to triple that amount of time.

So, for a student taking five classes, or 15 credits, the expectation is between 30-45 hours of out-of-class work time.

When we consider that ratio, a student working for 30 hours outside of class would look like this:


Communicate

It might seem like all your college-bound child wants to do is plan a graduation party, get to Bed, Bath & Beyond and connect with their future dorm-mate via Facebook. But discussions about how your son or daughter plans to manage their free time can be key.

Some essential questions to open up dialogue include:
  • Are they a morning, midday, or night worker? Developing self-awareness around their energy levels and personal preferences can encourage them to plan when during the day they’ll spend time on their work.
  • What’s their ideal work environment look like? For students who need minimal distractions, the library can be great. Other students might pick the cafeteria if the ambient noise of conversation is preferable to the quiet cubicles in the library. Some students might need to work in groups, and others might prefer to study off-campus at a cafe where the chances of seeing someone they know are much lower.
  • How comfortable are you saying “no”? When your child’s new friends want to pull an all-night World of Warcraft session or binge-watch Scandal until nearly dawn, it’s going to take a lot to reject those tempting, social-bonding offers. And, they can’t default to the often-used “sorry, my mom won’t let me” that worked like a charm when living under your roof. Therefore, helping them learn to set boundaries will be essential. 

Alleviate

By alleviate, I mean FOR YOU! Begin to pull back on the planning and managing of your child’s schedule now so that he or she can practice making decisions independently. Allowing your son or daughter to experience some pitfalls of poor planning and then reflecting on what they did or did not do can help them restrategize the next time around.

And, if you’ve illustrated how time will shift drastically and communicated with them throughout the springtime of senior year, they’ll be much more prepared to transition in September.

About Brittany Wadbrook

Brittany Wadbrook is a college instructor, certified writing tutor and senior executive function coach at Beyond BookSmart. She began her career in education at Quinnipiac University, earning a Bachelor of Arts in English and a Masters degree in Secondary Education. While at Quinnipiac, she became a College Reading and Learning Association-certified Master Level Writing Tutor, and spent three years working for the University's Learning Center. Wadbrook holds a second Masters degree in Composition and Rhetoric from UMass Boston. She is now a full-time lecturer at UMass, where she teaches first-year composition.

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